tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-79635838984695032942024-03-13T11:16:00.331-06:00The Domestic EngineerIntentional motherhood and creative homemaking.Melanie Allen {The Domestic Engineer}http://www.blogger.com/profile/13864926719514991781noreply@blogger.comBlogger109125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7963583898469503294.post-23269871449292481282019-06-28T13:15:00.002-06:002019-07-11T07:57:21.352-06:00I've Moved!<h2>
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Melanie Allen {The Domestic Engineer}http://www.blogger.com/profile/13864926719514991781noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7963583898469503294.post-28500798453459621622019-05-22T11:59:00.000-06:002019-05-22T11:59:01.480-06:00Intentional Meal Planning: Recipes<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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This series on meal planning has been so much fun that I'm sad to see it come to a close! I hope you all have found help for your own meals and some great ideas. Please share them with me! I'd love to know what you've learned and tried.<br />
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Before we end, we have one last topic to cover: recipes. Many of you asked me how I find recipes, how I create variety in our meals, and how to plan dinner from the pantry. I'll break down all of that and share a few of my favorite recipe books and recipes with you.<br />
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Finding Recipes</h3>
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It can be so hard to find new recipes when you're in a rut. Many people recommend Pinterest, but I've had more than a few Pinterest fails in my time, so I shy away from trying recipes there regularly. Here's a few of my favorite options:<br />
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Check out recipe books from the library.</h4>
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Most libraries have a large selection of cookbooks and it can be fun to browse through them if you have time. I'll often grab 2 or 3 that look interesting and take them home to browse more. I typically only try one or two recipes in a cookbook, but usually they turn out quite well!</div>
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Ask friends for recommendations.</h4>
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Most of your friends likely have a few go-to recipes that are different than yours. Ask around and see what they are eating. Ask them if they have a favorite cookbook or a favorite food blog. If a good friend is enjoying the book or blog chances are you might too. Also, ask for their favorite Pinterest recipes (the ones they've successfully cooked!) and you'll find those hidden gems!</div>
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Ask family members.</h4>
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There are generations of women who have been cooking far longer than you who would love to share their ideas. I regularly use my mother-in-law's chicken soup recipe that she passed on to me a few years ago. When I got married, I was given a cookbook full of recipes from friends and family that I still use! Even if you aren't getting married, ask for recipes as gifts for a birthday or holiday.</div>
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Try celebrity recipe books.</h4>
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It seems like everyone has a recipe book these days! Find a celebrity chef you like and try their cookbook. I personally really like Joanna Gaines and Paula Deen.</div>
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Have you ever eaten an amazing meal at a restaurant and wished you could eat it every day? Google "copycat recipe" plus the meal you love and you'd be surprised what you find! Not every recipe is exactly the same, but you can find something pretty darn close to what you love. There's even <a href="https://amzn.to/2XFdALA">an entire recipe book devoted to this</a>.</div>
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Recipe Books</h3>
Now for a few of my own favorites! I don't own very many recipe books, but the ones I do have I use over and over again.<br />
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<a href="https://amzn.to/2XFdOCq">The I Heart Naptime Cookbook by Jamielyn Nye</a></h4>
This is hands-down my favorite cookbook. It's written by moms for moms and the recipes are delicious. I reguarly use her crockpot chicken tacos recipe, taquitos, baked ziti, and many more.<br />
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<a href="https://amzn.to/2ISeSi3">Magnolia Table by Joanna Gaines</a></h4>
This is my newest addition. I absolutely love her creamy chicken and rice soup.<br />
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DIY Recipe Album</h4>
This is my golden ticket. Right here. I began copying down recipes I regularly use back in high school, and I've kept up with it. My binder is from <a href="https://www.hallmark.com/gifts/kitchen/recipe-organizers/">Hallmark</a>, but you can use any old binder or try one from <a href="https://amzn.to/2YEYI04">Amazon</a>.<br />
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I mentioned that I was given recipes when I got married- I tried out a number of them and my favorites went into my recipe binder. My favorite blog or Pinterest recipes make their way in here. Bottom line- if I use it regularly it goes in. I find I prefer a handwritten recipe to a digital file, and I look forward to passing this along to my kids someday!<br />
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Pantry Recipes</h3>
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Pantry recipes are my catch-all term for anything you throw together for dinner from your fridge, freezer, pantry without having to run to the store. Here's my quick list:</div>
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<li>- Pasta with a jar of tomato sauce</li>
<li>- Crockpot chicken: place frozen chicken breasts in the crockpot with a bottle of oil-based salad dressing all day, then combine chicken and sauce with cooked pasta</li>
<li>- Salad kit from the grocery store with any leftover meat I have on hand</li>
<li>- Stir-fried veggies and meat in a bottle of Asian sauce plus rice</li>
<li>- <a href="http://www.wittyinthecity.com/2011/08/man-pleasing-chicken/">Honey Mustard Chicken</a></li>
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<i>What is one of your favorite recipes? Tell me in the comments!</i></div>
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<br />Melanie Allen {The Domestic Engineer}http://www.blogger.com/profile/13864926719514991781noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7963583898469503294.post-59025553666992685082019-04-17T13:00:00.000-06:002019-04-17T13:08:55.957-06:00Intentional Meal Planning: Grocery List and ShoppingHello again, friends! We spent last week in Florida for part of Eli's spring break, and we had a wonderful time. It's also nice to be back home again, resuming our routines. And I'm back with more meal planning! Today I'm talking about my actual shopping and planning. From my past posts, you've seen my vision, budget, and pantry staples. Now let's explore what actually happens on grocery day.<br />
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Step One: Plan You Week</h4>
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On Saturday or Sunday morning, I sit down with my <a href="http://i.refs.cc/q4cwyk2F?smile_ref=eyJzbWlsZV9zb3VyY2UiOiJzbWlsZV91aSIsInNtaWxlX21lZGl1bSI6IiIsInNtaWxlX2NhbXBhaWduIjoicmVmZXJyYWxfcHJvZ3JhbSIsInNtaWxlX2N1c3RvbWVyX2lkIjoyMTA1OTg0MjB9\">planner</a>, grocery list, phone, and a cup of coffee. I run through my phone calendar and check in with Ben, writing down everything happening for the week on my planner's weekly spread. I make a point to write down <i>everything </i>from doctor's visits to sports to school happenings to play dates. The more I write down, the more I can see what dinner will look like each day. This provides clarity on how much time I'll have to cook, who's eating dinner each night, and any special occasions or changes to our normal schedule.<br />
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Step Two: Schedule Your Meals</h4>
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I write down a planned dinner for each day of the week, including weekends (I don't plan breakfast or lunch). If we are going out to eat, I write that down. If Ben is grilling, it goes in. Even take-out pizza goes in a slot if it's happening. The one other thing I do write down is if I need to bring food to an event. Planning ahead for your shopping trip is the name of the game!<br />
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Taking in to account our habits (like Taco Tuesday), our weekly schedule, and our out-to-eat days, I finish by filling in with recipes. I have a stack of recipe books (Look for my final post on meal planning recipes next!) that I typically browse, plus I use <a href="https://www.pinterest.com/melanieallen/">Pinterest</a>. As I write down our meals, I'll sometimes note the recipe's source so I don't forget. I also write in any sides that I'm planning to serve so that I have a full meal planned.<br />
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How do I know what to cook each week? I take into account what my family likes, the season, what we ate last week, and what's on sale. I have a stock of recipes I like (you probably do too!) and I try to add in one or two new-to-us recipe each week. This week's new recipe is <a href="https://www.pinterest.com/pin/37154765662409941/">Honey Garlic Chicken from Pinterest</a>.<br />
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Here is an example of my meal plans for this week:<br />
Monday: Honey Mustard Chicken, Rice, Salad<br />
Tuesday: Chicken Tacos, Chips + Guac<br />
Wednesday: Crock Pot Honey Garlic Chicken, Rice, Asparagus<br />
Thursday: Black Bean Quesadillas<br />
Friday: Hamburgers, Veggie, Fruit<br />
Saturday: Homemade Pizza<br />
Sunday: Pulled Pork Sandwiches, Sweet Potato Fries, Coleslaw<br />
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As a note, be sure of two things as you plan your meals: 1) there are no hard and fast rules! If you schedule chicken for Monday but need to move it to Wednesday, do it. Nobody is judging you. 2) Choose meals with your schedule in mind. I love crock pot meals for days where we have a busy afternoon, and I'll try a new recipe when I know I have time to complete it or Ben will be home early so he can keep the kids busy.<br />
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Step Three: Write Your Grocery List</h4>
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I grocery shop once per week, usually on Sunday or Monday. This is quite truthfully one of the ways we save money best-- only shopping once a week. Little purchases add up quickly and can make you unintentionally blow through your budget. The very best way to keep to once a week is to write your list!<br />
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I write my list here as step three because you want to create your list only after your schedule is in place. This allows you to simply copy down ingredients you'll need, and keeps you from forgetting an item. I keep my list somewhere I can find it during the week, and add any items we need as I think of it. If I have any coupons, I'll write a small C next to the coupon item. I also make a separate list on the back or to the side with household items, personal care, and anything else I might need to pick up while I'm shopping.<br />
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After I run through my week's recipes and write down any ingredients I need, I check my pantry, fridge, and freezer, and list any staples I need to restock. I also ask Ben if he needs anything, and ask Eli if he has any requests for packed school lunches.<br />
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Finally, while we don't plan our breakfasts and lunches, we have a regular rotation of options. I make sure to add these items (think bread, peanut butter, eggs, etc) to my list as well.<br />
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Step Four: Go Shopping!</h4>
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I like to do this all in one go. I hit Aldi, a regular grocery store, and sometimes Walmart too. For those of us with small kids or busy schedules, I know this can be a lot. Try making this your alone time- grab a coffee and enjoy shopping while someone watches your kids. Or if you bring your kids, give them a snack or a reward for helping. A friend also introduced me to <a href="https://inst.cr/t/C11CsSxuu">Instacart</a> this week. That's a game changer! Whatever you do, the idea is to do one giant trip once per week and then do everything you can to wait a full week to go shopping again.<br />
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Money-Saving Tips:</h4>
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- Buy what's on sale! Grab your local store's grocery add online or in your paper, and lay it own while you plan meals to help you see what's on sale and how you can incorporate that into your week.</div>
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- Use one meat multiple times. I find meat adds up quickly, and when I buy several types, it runs up my grocery bill. This week, for example, I'm using chicken 3 times. We are cooking a pork butt for Easter, so next we'll we will have pork taquitos and pork sandiwches. Re-purpose as often as you can, buying large packages of one type of meat to see you through the week.</div>
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- Buy only what you can afford. Find a fantastic recipe that includes 5 expensive ingredients? Save it for a special occasion. Try to use recipes that generally have ingredients already in your pantry.</div>
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Now that we've made it through the meal planning process all the way to your shopping trip, what else would you like to know? Have I answered your questions? Comment below and I'll include answers next time!Melanie Allen {The Domestic Engineer}http://www.blogger.com/profile/13864926719514991781noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7963583898469503294.post-24360835415852593062019-04-04T08:51:00.004-06:002019-04-04T08:52:31.497-06:00Intentional Meal Planning: Prep Work<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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I'm having so much fun going through this series with you all! I hope you're enjoying it as much as I am. Now that your <a href="https://thedomesticengineersblog.blogspot.com/2019/04/intentional-meal-planning-budget.html">budget</a> is in place, so let's move on to preparation. Prep work is everything you do to get ready to meal plan. For me, that's pantry staples, a planner, and a list. You might add in something else like a menu board or coupons, so be sure to find what works best for you.<br />
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Pantry Staples</h3>
A well stocked pantry is a gift. It means you have food within reach and can start your cooking from a baseline. Once you have a pantry in place, it makes grocery shopping and cooking so much easier! But getting to that point can be expensive and tricky. When we moved last summer, I had to leave behind the majority of my pantry, and it took several months to restock.<br />
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Only you can choose your specific staples list, but here is mine:<br />
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<i>Over the years we have used a kitchen cabinet, a shelf in the basement, or an actual pantry closet to store these supplies. Use whatever space you have a choose your supplies accordingly!</i><br />
<u>Baking Supplies:</u> flour, sugar, brown sugar, powdered sugar, vanilla, cocoa powder, baking powder, baking soda, cornstarch (I bake a lot!)<br />
<u>Herbs & Spices:</u> salt, kosher salt, black & red pepper, garlic powder, thyme, oregano, rosemary, seasoning blends, taco seasoning packets, ranch seasoning packets<br />
<u>Prepackaged Foods:</u> boxed rice mixes, mac & cheese, pasta (long noodles, shaped noodles, orzo), parmesan cheese<br />
<u>Canned Goods:</u> diced tomatoes, black beans, garbanzo beans, chicken broth (mine actually comes in a box)<br />
<u>Sauces:</u> tomato sauce, salsa, BBQ sauce, marinades, dijon mustard, simmer sauces, oil-based salad dressing, peanut butter<br />
<u>Packaged foods:</u> tortilla chips, pretzels, baby food pouches, protein bars, popcorn<br />
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<i>This is my pantry shelf where I store my non-perishables. Most of these items are from Aldi and the syrup is from <a href="https://refer.brandless.com/s/Melanie99">Brandless</a>.</i><br />
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<u>Sauces:</u> ketchup, BBQ sauce, mustard, soy sauce, salad dressing (one creamy, one vinegar based), syrup<br />
<u>Dairy:</u> milk, almond milk, eggs, sour cream, heavy cream, shredded cheese, butter<br />
<u>Other:</u> jelly, lemon juice<br />
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<u>Veggies:</u> chopped onions, 3 pepper & onion blend, stir fry blend, corn<br />
<u>Meat:</u> chicken breast, chicken thighs, ground beef<br />
<u>Other:</u> cookie dough balls, bananas, frozen fruit for smoothies, more butter<br />
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<li>* Make a list of everything you need, but don't currently have. Add a few items to your weekly grocery list until your pantry is complete. When an item goes on sale, buy multiple packages if you have extra storage space.</li>
<li>* Use a site like <a href="https://refer.brandless.com/s/Melanie99">Brandless</a> to buy pantry basics at reasonable prices. We love their pure maple syrup, tahini, and baby food pouches.</li>
<li>* Herbs and spices can be expensive, but quality makes a huge difference. I use <a href="https://www.penzeys.com/">Penzeys Spices</a> for about 80% of my pantry. I keep a running list on my phone of spices I want or run out of, and then about once a quarter I run to our Penzey's store. I've also considered using companies like <a href="https://refer.brandless.com/s/Melanie99">Brandless</a> to order bulk spices, but haven't tried it yet.</li>
<li>* Decant your baking supplies into jars. I use mason jars for smaller items and plastic storage containers for the larger ones. Make sure to use clear plastic or glass so it's easy to see what supplies are running low. This also makes it significantly easier to store!</li>
<li>* As soon as you use the last of a pantry staple, grab your list and write it down for the coming week. It can be hard to remember at first, but you'll find this easier than trying to remember on grocery day or run to the store at the last minute.</li>
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I typically sit down at our kitchen table on Saturday mornings with a cup of coffee and grab my planner, list, recipe books, and phone. It takes me about 30 minutes a week, and when I'm done I have a plan for the next seven days plus my completed grocery list.<br />
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The point here is not so much what you use as writing it down. I typically grab my calendar (on my phone or in my planner) and think through our week and what might be good to eat when. I also take into account things like the weather or visitors. I'll serve a crock pot dish if we'll be at the doctor all afternoon or a soup if it's a cold, rainy day.</div>
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As a note, I do not plan breakfasts, lunches, or snacks. I know some people do find that helpful, so find out what's best for you. I offer a small array of options for breakfast and lunch that my kids choose between. I don't eat breakfast, and Ben grabs something at work. For lunch, I eat leftovers, PBJ, or a salad with chicken. Ben takes leftovers to work on days he doesn't have a lunch meeting.</div>
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Here again, the idea isn't so much to have a cute list as it is to just make a list. For many years, I grabbed a $1 magnetic list pad from the Target Dollar Spot. When I ordered my planner last year, I ordered a list pad from <a href="https://www.emilyley.com/collections/notepads-notecards/products/grocery-list-notepad">Simplified</a> as well. I like the idea of categories, but don't like the way it's broken up. (I usually fill a couple sections and have one or two mostly empty.) So all that to say, grab any sheet of paper pr pad you like and make a list!</div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Now that we <a href="https://thedomesticengineersblog.blogspot.com/2019/04/intentional-meal-planning-part-1.html">have our why</a>, it’s time
to prepare! Today we are going to talk budget.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">My goal today is to get you ready to plan. I used
to run to the grocery store, wandering the aisles and wonder how on earth we
are going to get a meal plan together. I’d come home with a giant grocery bill
and a whole lot of food we never ate. So this post and the next one will help
you set yourself up for success.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Up today, budget and spending! I regularly hear from families that their grocery budget is too high, or that they have no idea how much they spend. Although budgets can be a pain (I hate them!) they make a world of difference. When you know how much you spend and how much you plan to spend, you can get your finances in order.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Only you and your
family can set your budget, but I’m going to use mine as an example here. I
recommend setting your numbers in place for the month or the year, giving you a
bird’s eye view, and then dividing it into weeks. I have a goal of grocery
shopping once per week, so I divide my spending accordingly.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Before I lay out our family’s plan, I also want to
tell you the secret to sticking to our budget: CASH. A couple times a month I
withdraw cash from the bank, divide it up, and use it for groceries and a few
other categories. When my cash is gone, my spending is done. Honestly, this is
super difficult for me, but it proves effective. It also forces me to get
creative in how I shop if I know I only have so much cash in my wallet!<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Our family spends $400/ month on groceries (around
$90 per week). I plan meals weekly for our family of five (three children,
ages 7, 4, and 1 plus two adults). We divide up our spending quite a bit, so
this $400/month only accounts for actual food. We have a separate out-to-eat
budget that allows us to go out a couple of times a month. I also have
$60/month for household goods—this includes paper products, cleaning supplies, personal care items, makeup, etc, and $100/month for kids—diapers, clothes, kid activities, etc. The last
category I’ll mention is what we call our “hosting budget.” We hold $40/month
in an account that we use if we have families over for a big dinner or a house
guest. We don’t use this every month, but we let it accumulate so we have what
we need for hospitality. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">So how does all this work together? I usually
bring $80-100 in cash to the grocery store, plus I keep the $60 household cash
in my wallet, spending as needed until it’s gone. Your budget might look
different than mine, but the point is the same—make a plan and stick to it.
Give yourself the goal of not overspending for a month and see how you do.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Several of the responses on Instagram were
how I only spend $90 a week on groceries. Truth be told, it’s actually the most
I’ve every spent! I’ve used this budget in both Colorado and North Carolina, so
I have found it works in multiple areas of the country. Here are a few of the
strategies I use:<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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When
it comes to fresh fruits and vegetables, I could easily spend my whole budget!
I have learned to buy what’s in season. I do a quick scan through the fruits
and veggies, then grab whatever is on the best sale. Rather than aiming for variety
each week, I aim for variety throughout the year. So we may eat a lot of asparagus
for awhile, but we’ll switch to broccoli or green beans later.</div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit; text-indent: -0.25in;">This
also works on some non-perishables. Baking supplies are usually cheapest between
October and December. During those months, I use a portion of my weekly grocery
budget on flour, sugar, and chocolate chips so I’m stocked up for the year.</span></div>
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in “bulk.”</span></h4>
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<span style="font-family: inherit; text-indent: -0.25in;">We
don’t have a Costco membership, so bulk is a loose term. What I do is purchase
products I know we’ll use in larger quantities when they go on sale. I have a general
tally in my head of what good prices are on different items. If I see something
at a great price, I stock up. For example, my kids love Annie’s brand organic
mac & cheese. It’s usually $1.50-$2 per box. $1 per box is a great price,
so when I see it at that price, I buy 10 boxes. Or if chicken happens to drop below
$1.99/lb I’ll get 10 lbs. and freeze it. When Ben and I first got
married, we had pasta night at least once a week—we used to wait for our
favorite pasta sauce and noodles to go on sale and then buy 20 jars and 20
boxes of noodles. We eat a little less pasta now, but the idea is the same!</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit; text-indent: -0.25in;">Like
I mentioned with chicken above, when I find a good price on meat, I buy it and
freeze it. I like using quart size freezer bags so it’s pre-portioned and
easier to defrost.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit; text-indent: -0.25in;">I like to buy frozen veggies in the freezer aisle. Did you know that for around
$1 you can get a back of frozen, chopped onion that’s about the same as 3
onions? I <i>love</i> these because they don’t go bad and they’re so much easier to
cook with! I also buy veggie stir fry blends, peppers & onions, and frozen
corn.</span></div>
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also like to freeze cookie dough balls. When I bake, I’ll double the batch and
freeze half in balls. Next time I need cookies, I don’t have to do a last minute
store run for chocolate chips or flour.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit; text-indent: -0.25in;">After
years of shopping, I know what costs less where. Particularly since we’ve moved
to North Carolina, I buy certain things at certain stores. I
typically do my weekly grocery shopping by stopping at Aldi first, then finishing at Harris Teeter. I also have a short list of items that are cheapest at
Wal-Mart. Sometimes I’ll set aside a little money and grab those items the next
time I’m shopping there. In Colorado, I used to buy most things at King Soopers
(a Kroger store) and follow up at Sprouts Farmers Market.</span></div>
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less organic.</span></h4>
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<span style="font-family: inherit; text-indent: -0.25in;">I
know, I know, organic is all the rage right now. Personally? I’m not always
convinced that organic is the best way to go. Sometimes it feels more like a
brand tax than an actual difference. I tend to look for more “natural” products
or a small ingredients lists than organic. And while I do look for “no growth
hormones” in my milk, eggs, and meat, I don’t buy free range or organic unless
the price is right. For produce, I try to buy organic if it’s on the dirty
dozen list, but otherwise I stick to regular.</span></div>
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the name brands.</span></h4>
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<span style="font-family: inherit; text-indent: -0.25in;">Unless
you have a very favorite product (for us it’s Blue Bell Ice Cream), skip the
name brand and go generic. You can usually find a product that’s basically the
same thing for much less money.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit; text-indent: -0.25in;">This week I bought 3 ½ lbs of chicken. Yesterday we had grilled
chicken, tonight we’re eating chicken tacos, and later this week I’ll make
chicken curry. Last week I used ground beef for tacos and hamburgers. Another
week Ben smoked a pork butt that we used as pulled pork, taquitos, and pork sandwiches.
I aim for around 3 days with the “meat of the week” and then fill in with
vegetarian options or out-to-eat days in between.</span></div>
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a few weekly meal staples.</span></h4>
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<span style="font-family: inherit; text-indent: -0.25in;">We
always eat some form of tacos on Tuesday and make homemade pizza on Friday or
Saturday night. I know this, so I am always planning ahead for the ingredients.
When cheese goes on sale I buy a lot and freeze it. I do the same with tomato
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<span style="font-family: inherit; text-indent: -0.25in;">With three kids, the name of the game is easy. We give our kids a few good options for breakfast (oatmeal, toast, or cereal) and lunch (PBJ, grilled cheese, turkey sandwich, mac & cheese), and our family all eats the same dinner. I also buy a few snacks (off brand!) in large boxes for the kids to enjoy. I don't buy juice, soda, pre-made lunch kits, or individually pre-packaged snacks. Honestly, they're bad for kids anyways and they are expensive. I have a couple <a href="https://amzn.to/2HTC5AG">reuseable snack bags</a> I send to school with Eli or take to the park instead.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Do you meal plan? I didn't for a long time. It
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our move to North Carolina last August, I've found meal planning to be really
helpful. One of our family goals with our move was to eat dinner together as a
family around our table, something we hadn't been doing very often before. If we were
going to eat at home, that meant I was responsible for getting dinner on the
table! After a few nights of staring at my fridge wondering what on earth to cook,
I realized meal planning was the way to go. With a great deal of trial and
error, I have found a system that generally works for our family.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">I did a quick
Instagram poll over the weekend, wondering if you all would be interested in
this, and I got so many questions! In fact, what began as one post has now
turned in to a whole series on intentional meal planning. I'm so excited to
write about this and I hope sharing with you all will be helpful. I want to
hear your questions: comment and tell me what you’d like to know about meal
planning!<span style="font-size: 11pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Before we jump into how I meal plan, I want to
give you the <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">why</i>. It can be easy to
run through our weeks, months, and years without really considering why we do
what we do. One day we are parenting toddlers, and the next our children go off
to college (or so I’m told! I’m still waiting for that one!). As my Grammy and
Mom remind me, the days are long but the years are short. I know I don’t want
to miss what is most important with my children, and I imagine you don’t
either. Think about meal planning within the greater ideal of family mealtime.
We all hope for meals around the table with the ones we love, and meal planning
is one vehicle that drives us to that goal. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">I sometimes hear anecdotal claims about the value of
family mealtime, but does it actually carry significance? It does in fact, carry a lot of significance, beginning with God's view on family mealtime. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">In Deuteronomy, Moses speaks the greatest
commandment to love God to the whole tribe of Israel, and then follows it with
this: “<span style="background: white;">And these words that I command you
today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children,
and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way,
and when you lie down, and when you rise.</span>” (Deuteronomy 6: 6-7). Moses
very specifically instructs parents to pass down these ideals to their
children, including when you “sit in your house.” In our home, we are most
likely to be sitting around the dinner table (or the television-being honest
here!). What does this mean for you and I? It means that God wants us to gather
our children around the table and teach them about Him. Our primary objective
as parents is to point our children to Jesus, and one of the best ways to do
this is around our dinner table. When I meal plan, I am calmer at dinner and
more ready to talk to my children, instead of feeling frazzled and rushed,
throwing fast food into the backseat while we drive to soccer. As we work
through this series on meal planning, always keep this ideal in mind. You aren’t
meal planning to be super mom or to look good to others or even to save money.
You are meal planning to point your children to Jesus.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Let’s jump forward a little now and look at
scientific reasons for family mealtime. This issue has been frequently studied, and the research is quite illuminating. The <a href="https://thefamilydinnerproject.org/resources/faq/">familydinnerproject.org</a> states
“<span style="background: white;">Over the past 15 years researchers have confirmed what
parents have known for a long time: sharing a family meal is good for the
spirit, the brain and the health of all family members.” <a href="https://www.goodnet.org/articles/9-scientifically-proven-reasons-to-eat-dinner-as-family">Goodnet.org</a> lists nine
scientifically proven reasons to eat dinner as a family, including better
family relationships, healthier food choices, and stress relief. <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-intelligent-divorce/201306/the-family-dinner">PsychologyToday</a> takes it a step further citing “a study done by The National Center on
Addiction and </span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/addiction" style="-webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; orphans: 2; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px;" title="Psychology Today looks at Substance Abuse"><span style="background: white; color: windowtext; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; text-decoration: none; text-underline: none;">Substance Abuse</span></a><span style="-webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; float: none; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; orphans: 2; text-decoration-color: initial; text-decoration-style: initial; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px;"> </span><span style="background: white;">revealed that teens who eat fewer
than three</span><a href="http://blog.foodnetwork.com/healthyeats/2012/01/06/the-importance-of-family-dinner/" style="-webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; orphans: 2; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px;" target="_blank"><span style="background: white; color: windowtext; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; text-decoration: none; text-underline: none;"> family dinners</span></a><span style="background: white;"><span style="-webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; float: none; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; orphans: 2; text-decoration-color: initial; text-decoration-style: initial; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px;"> per week
compared to those who eat five to seven a week are twice as likely to use
alcohol and tobacco and one and a half times more likely to use </span></span><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/conditions/cannabismarijuana" style="-webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; orphans: 2; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px;" title="Psychology Today looks at marijuana"><span style="background: white; color: windowtext; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial; text-decoration: none; text-underline: none;">marijuana</span></a><span style="background: white;"><span style="-webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; float: none; font-variant-caps: normal; font-variant-ligatures: normal; orphans: 2; text-decoration-color: initial; text-decoration-style: initial; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px;">.</span>” I don’t
know about you, but I hope my children will grow to be happy, healthy, drug-free
teenagers. If meal times together around the table can lower their risk, I am
willing to do a little meal planning to make it happen.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="background: white;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">Personally, for
our family meal planning has given us time together, a less stressful week,
and money saved. We rarely go out to eat and instead are really enjoying our
nights at home together. Had you told me this six months ago, I would have been
so surprised! Friends, this can be done and I’m excited to share my tips with
you!<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="background: white;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">Before
you go any further, think about your own why. Often the greater reason behind a
task will change it from a chore to a privilege. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="background: white;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">Up
next: Part 2- Set Yourself Up for Success. I’ll walk you through our budget,
pantry, and meal planning essentials.</span></span></div>
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Melanie Allen {The Domestic Engineer}http://www.blogger.com/profile/13864926719514991781noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7963583898469503294.post-12914603707233234822019-03-27T13:28:00.002-06:002019-03-27T14:22:48.139-06:00Storing and Displaying Children's BooksMy house is overrun with books. I don't just mean one here or there, but truly, they are spilling over in our bedrooms, living room, playroom, and even in the car. When I clean our house, half the battle is putting books away.<br />
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This is entirely my fault. When I make my own birthday list or ask for gifts for our kids, my requests are primarily books. Every grandparent sends at least one book per child at every birthday and Christmas. My mom started a monthly "Nana's Book Club" at my suggestion. I spend all my extra dollars on books for myself.<br />
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It should come as no surprise that books dominate our home's shelves and floors and tables and closets. I've tried many different ways of storing them through the years, but always struggled to find enough room for our growing collection. I weed out books occasionally, but how do you give away a book?! Even Marie Kondo has to admit that books spark joy.<br />
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Our new-to-us home here in North Carolina finally seems to have met my challenge for a book-friendly house. We have built-ins in our bedroom, living room, and office, plus I've added more shelves in our formal living-room-turned-library.<br />
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Today I have a few tips for you on storing and displaying your books. It can be a challenge to know where to put all those beloved books, so I hope this helps!<br />
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<b>Keep Like Books With Like</b></h3>
Tell me I'm not the only one who has promised a book to a friend, only to search my whole house and come up empty. I store books all over my home, and with so many places to look it can be difficult to find a specific book. With our move last summer, I decided to generally store similar types of books together. For me, this means adult books on our bedroom shelves, books about our careers (in our case engineering and counseling) in the office, and children's books in the library/playroom. I also try to use each shelf for a theme, like parenting, or fiction, or elementary chapter books, so that my kids or I can look in one spot for similar types of books. I don't stick to this rule religiously, but I have found it makes finding books easier!<br />
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<b>Decorate With Books</b></h3>
Books are my favorite accessory for my home. They are beautiful, colorful, and useful- the perfect way to fill shelf space. To begin, I usually grab a stack of books that match my color scheme or are just really pretty. Sometimes I'll grab books by a similar theme, but often I simply choose books I love. I find candles, fake plants, and framed art go well with books if you are looking to style a shelf in your home.<br />
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Make Reading Easy</h3>
My children and I read more when we can grab a book easily and quickly. For this reason, I usually keep a stack of books on our coffee table and end tables. I'll often scatter library books around the house for anyone to pick up and read.<br />
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I also have a dedicated space in my children's rooms for a few books. This doesn't have to be fancy, just a spot where they can enjoy a book when they're in the bedrooms. For Theia (15 months), I have a couple <a href="https://amzn.to/2FC0xTP">Indestructibles books</a> I keep near her crib and I hand her one at nap time. I especially love these because she can't ruin them. Trust me, board books get SO MUCH LOVE in a crib! For Tessa (4) I cleared a shelf in her closet's built-ins for a few books. She often wanders up to her room with books, so to clean up at bedtime I have her fill the shelf, then return any extras back to the playroom. For Eli (7), I have a stack on his nightstand and a "bookshelf" balanced between his bedpost and spare mattress at the foot of his bed. Remember, form over function! The goal is for our kids to be reading, not for it to look perfect.<br />
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<b>Store Books Within Reach</b></h3>
While I do love keeping books all around my house, I find having most of our children's books in one specific spot is the best option for true book storage. We converted our front room into a library, so it has a couch, two bookshelves, Eli's homework desk, a reading chair, and the Lego table (it opens right into the playroom). These bookshelves are the primary home for all our children's books.<br />
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When I store the books, I do it so that each child has access to age-appropriate books. This means board books on the bottom shelves, picture books next, then chapter books on the higher shelves. I want my kids to walk or crawl right up to the books that are at their current reading level.<br />
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<b>Display Books for Your Children</b></h3>
I've hear from many different sources recently that kids respond better to books with covers facing out than to a stocked shelf with the spines facing out. I've tried this myself and found it to be true. With my move to consolidate books to certain locations in our home, the bookshelf in the playroom was freed up for my to try this idea. I've begun displaying a few selected books face-out for my kids to explore. I change out the books every few days, giving them a chance to finally read our library of children's books. It's also a fun way to focus on a particular theme, season, or holiday by choosing specific books. Plus, this gives me a chance to read-aloud something other than Curious George every. single. day.<br />
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<i>How do you display your books? Do you have any tips or tricks?</i><br />
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<script src="//z-na.amazon-adsystem.com/widgets/onejs?MarketPlace=US"></script>Melanie Allen {The Domestic Engineer}http://www.blogger.com/profile/13864926719514991781noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7963583898469503294.post-74317794909351336452019-03-19T08:15:00.002-06:002019-03-19T08:15:31.454-06:00Hidden Days of MotherhoodHas anyone else been sick for days and days? We haven't been able to kick this round of sickness for a couple of weeks now. All five of us have gone down, and I'm the final casualty. Today I can barely talk, which doesn't work well when I have to keep little people alive. <div>
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I find that sickness pulls me back toward home, into a reflective mood and quiet days. The busyness of life gives way to unexpected days at home and cancelled plans. This has felt really lonely. It has also been much-needed. </div>
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I was talking with my sister and a close friend last week about how difficult motherhood can be. I often feel unseen and unimportant. I feel constantly frustrated with the complaints and needs of my children. I know in my head that being home with my children matters, but in the everyday diaper changes, nose wipes, and time-outs, it often doesn't feel that way. In both conversations, my sister and friend reminded me that seasons of quiet, unnoticed work matter to God. My sister pointed me toward God's name "El Roi" which means the God who sees me. (I've been diving deep into this name of God and have so much more to say about it soon.)</div>
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In the hidden days of motherhood, isn't it a gift that God sees us? Our long days don't go unnoticed to him. He celebrates or victories and draws us near when there are tears. I hope today you can grab hold of the comforting presence of God in your smallest, dirtiest, loudest moments.</div>
Melanie Allen {The Domestic Engineer}http://www.blogger.com/profile/13864926719514991781noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7963583898469503294.post-42639630291675670312019-02-11T11:15:00.001-07:002019-02-11T11:15:47.117-07:00IF:Gathering 2019 Notes<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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I spent this weekend in Dallas at <a href="https://www.ifgathering.com/">IF:Gathering</a>. IF is a conference for women, by women, to point to Jesus and teach women to disciple their generation. I have loved IF and it's founder, Jennie Allen, for a long time, and so attending the conference in person was extra special. I also got to spend a couple of days with my wonderful cousin in Dallas! I came away filled, encouraged, challenged, and inspired. <div>
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As I sort through my notes today, I wanted to share a little of what I learned and what I'm most excited about. The conference focused on Proverbs this year, so I learned a lot of practical wisdom. My notes usually look more like bullet points, so that's how I'll share here. BONUS for you: if you <a href="https://www.ifgathering.com/">click here you can watch IF:Gathering online</a>!</div>
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<li>Proverbs 1:7 says "The fear of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge, but fools despise wisdom and instruction." Is it possible that we have learned a lot of things about God but we have not feared or truly known Him? This fear of God is not the end, though. The end is love. (1 John 4:18) Jesus drove out the fear with his love. (1 John 4:9-10) Live in His love and let His love live in us. {Jennie Allen}</li>
<li>"God has only ever used ordinary people to do extraordinary things." Christine Caine</li>
<li>"The creation of small outposts of truth and beauty will change the world." Curt Thompson</li>
<li>"Jesus I give all to you, not half my heart but all." Jill Briscoe</li>
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So what did I learn? I learned that I must absolutely be grounded in God's word. Time with him is what changes me and what keeps me near Him. I learned that God's call for me (and for all of us) is to point people to Jesus. This happens through deep, intentional discipleship relationships where we learn and grow through quality time and honest communication. I learned that God is asking me to keep going forward, to keep fighting for Him, even when it feels incredibly difficult. And I learned that Jesus not only loves me, but he also likes me.</div>
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IF also sent all the attendees home with Jennie Allen's new study on 1 Corinthians. (It's currently <a href="https://amzn.to/2SEWM8G">available for pre-order on Amazon</a>.) I am so excited about it and plan to do it with a friend! If you're looking for a good study, try it out. Plus, there are<a href="https://www.rightnowmedia.org/Content/Series/257958"> videos on Right Now Media</a> to go along with the book.</div>
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Since moving to North Carolina, our local library has become a staple in our week. We attend story time, check out books, enjoy the coffee shop across the street, and play at the nearby park on nice days. I have become so deeply grateful for the friendly faces at our library now that we live somewhere new. Even on my loneliest weeks, I know I can look forward to library day.<br />
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As I've talked with other mamas, many have mentioned that they wished the utilized their local library but struggle to do so. Often when you didn't grow up going to the library or haven't gone much with your kids, it can be a challenge to know how to incorporate library days into your life. Here are a few tips to bring your local library into your weekly life:<br />
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I've got to be honest, over the years we have attended some truly terrible story times. There was the one with the super mean librarian, and the one with the young librarian whose low cut shirt and peppy songs made her a bit too, umm, bouncy. And then there are ones with so many children you can barely see what's happening. But if you can find a good librarian, story time is magic. Ask around to find out who the best librarian is, or the best story time, and then go. It might take a few tries to find the right one, but once you do, it will be worth it.<br />
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Friends, my kids are the loudest, most obnoxious children at the library. They yell, scream, sing, dance, and cry. It's like they save their worst for the quiet library. Here's the thing though: the librarians are glad you are there. They want your kids at the library and welcome their joy. While I recommend sticking to the children's area with your loud kids, don't stay home because of noise. I'd also encourage you to use it as a chance to teach your kids how to behave inside. Repeated, gentle training yields results. It's just the eternal challenge of being patient as you get there!<br />
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Holds have literally changed the way I use my library. I used to get so frustrated because I could never find the books I needed. Or I'd try to run through the adult fiction section with my super loud kids, so distracted I couldn't find a book. Now, I do the legwork at home and simply pick up my books from the holds shelf!<br />
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Most libraries now have an app or website you can use. Figure out your login and password (you can ask a librarian for help!) and then search for books from your phone or computer. You can request books right from the website and choose which branch you'd like the holds to be delivered to. Once they arrive you'll get an email, and usually the hold is there for about 3-5 days. The best part? It's not just adult books on the holds list. You can request picture books too! We'll often request a favorite book or a new book in a series. I also will sit down with Eli and let him choose a few chapter books to put on hold.<br />
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Ya'll, library fines are no joke. Our new library only does a 2 week check out, so I'm always worried about racking up fines. Stick a reminder on your phone when you check out the books so you won't get caught with too many fines. I also like to get a print-out receipt with all the books I checked out and hang it on my fridge. When it's time to return books, I mark off books one by one as I put them in my library bag to be sure I don't forget anything.<br />
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Story time is a fantastic way to have a play date! Go with a friend and let your kids enjoy story time together, then walk to a park nearby or play in the library's play area if yours has one. I know that some kids struggle to sit still, but don't feel bad about that. Just do your best and enjoy friends and books!<br />
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<b>-- <a href="https://amzn.to/2SalDAR">Read for the Heart by Sarah Clarkson</a></b>-<span style="font-family: inherit;"> "<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333;">From timeless classics to modern favorites, from picture books to adventure novels to read-aloud favorites, more than 1,000 wonderful stories for young people are recommended within these pages." (from Amazon)</span></span><br />
<b>-- <a href="https://amzn.to/2G7hh7k">Honey for a Child's Heart by Gladys Hunt</a></b><span style="font-family: inherit;">- "<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333;">A modern classic with over 250,000 copies sold, <em>Honey for a Child's Heart </em>is a compelling, essential guide for parents who want to find the best books for their children ages 0–12." (from Amazon)</span></span><br />
<b>-- <a href="https://amzn.to/2MBKcBs">The Read-Aloud Family by Sarah Mackenzie</a></b><span style="font-family: inherit;">- "<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333;">From a toddler’s wonder to a teenager’s resistance, Sarah details practical strategies to make reading aloud a meaningful family ritual." (from Amazon)</span></span><br /><b>-- <a href="https://readaloudrevival.com/">The Read-Aloud Revival Website and Podcast</a></b>- a fantastic resource full of good books and tips for reading aloud<br />
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<i>How do you use your local library? What tips can you offer to other moms?</i>Melanie Allen {The Domestic Engineer}http://www.blogger.com/profile/13864926719514991781noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7963583898469503294.post-72090539737532786312019-01-24T08:32:00.000-07:002019-01-24T08:32:06.992-07:00A Few of my Favorite Things: JanuaryHello friends! It's a cold and rainy Thursday here in North Carolina, the perfect day to cozy up and write to you!<br />
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But first, a quick note about the blog: A few of you have asked me how to receive emails when I write a new post. After a lot of trial and error, I finally created a way to make this happen! If you view this (or any) post on my blog, you'll see a form on the right side that says "Add me to the email list!" Simply input your name and email into this form, and I'll add you to my email list. I will send out an email each time a new post is published.<br />
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And now, a few of my favorite things this month!<br />
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Our local library is absolutely fantastic. The librarians are friendly, the story time is phenomenal, and the holds shelf is always full of books I request! If you have little (or big!) people in your life who need something to do on cold days, I highly recommend checking out your local library. They offer so many programs and activities. I'm working on a post all about utilizing your local library. Stay tuned! <i>(Wondering what I'm reading? I keep <a href="https://linktr.ee/thedomesticengineer">a link to my current reads here.</a>)</i><br />
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We turned our train table into a lego table for Christmas and I had no idea how many hours of fun it would provide! All three kids love it, and have had so much fun playing together and creating new projects. Eli loved <a href="https://amzn.to/2Mw6K6D">this Ninjago set</a> and <a href="https://amzn.to/2Mw1vDQ">this DIY book,</a> and Tessa has had hours of imaginary fun with <a href="https://amzn.to/2MsL0IM">this set</a> that matches<a href="https://amzn.to/2Tc9FE3"> her new doll</a>.<br />
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Some of you know that I'm a personality test junkie. I've recently learned about the Enneagram and have loved discovering my type! It's a little confusing at first, but check out @enneagramandcoffee on Instagram or the <a href="https://www.mattmorgan.com/podcast/">Matt Morgan Podcast</a> for help understanding yourself. I am a 9w1, meaning type 9 that also has traits of a 1. This basically means that keeping peace is very important to me, and I love being cozy and at home. Having 1 traits is where my organized side comes in. There's so much to learn and it's so fun! I love learning about myself and the people I love.<br />
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In line with my type 9, I've been all about cozy clothes this month to combat the cold. For at-home days, <a href="https://amzn.to/2CFhew2">these yoga leggings</a> help hold in the mom-tummy and have a cell phone pocket! <a href="https://amzn.to/2TfDmnW">This sweater</a> has become a definite favorite. It's cozy, roomy, and comes several really pretty colors. I have the v-neck style in olive and I'm thinking about ordering the <a href="https://amzn.to/2FUk3wt">crew neck style in rose coral</a>. I'm also love <a href="https://amzn.to/2CJvc01">this cozy blanket scarf</a> for days I'm outside or on the go. I even sent it to a couple friends for Christmas!<br />
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<i>What are you loving this month? Share in the comments!</i>Melanie Allen {The Domestic Engineer}http://www.blogger.com/profile/13864926719514991781noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7963583898469503294.post-66002180610624716032019-01-14T12:06:00.001-07:002019-01-14T12:06:36.904-07:00Brave<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Happy 2019! I hope your new year is off to a fantastic start.<br />
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New years always make me pause and think about the coming year and all I hope it will hold. My type-A sensibilities take over and I make goals. This year I want to read 40+ books, I want to write more, I want to create something new.<br />
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But then? Then my anxiety sets in. What if I fail? What if my ideas are a complete flop? What if I don't fulfill my goals? I have come to a point this week where my fear of failure feels almost paralyzing at times. I keep doing the same things over and over, knowing nothing will change but afraid to make the change.<br />
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As I prayed through a word for my year, the word I kept coming back to is <b>BRAVE</b>. You see, I am not a risk taker. I like to be calm, comfortable, and content. I don't always want to try new things. And yet God is calling me forward. New things, new relationships, a whole new state! Being brave can be scary but it is also just what I need to do this year.<br />
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Truthfully, I am really excited about a year of being brave. I have so many new ideas and dreams! I can't wait to share them with you all. And I'm slowly learning that progress over perfection is my true aim anyways.<br />
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<i>What is your word or big goal this year? I'd love to cheer you on!</i>Melanie Allen {The Domestic Engineer}http://www.blogger.com/profile/13864926719514991781noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7963583898469503294.post-52454795976366927662018-12-26T14:06:00.001-07:002018-12-26T14:06:09.743-07:002019 Reading List {Free Download!}<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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I had so much fun last week sharing with you all about my favorite reads of 2018. Thanks to all of you who entered to win the book <a href="https://amzn.to/2BI3i3W">Long Days of Small Things</a> over on <a href="https://www.instagram.com/thedomesticengineer/">Instagram</a>! As you saw from my photos, I log my reading each year in a journal with a simple method of title, author, and 5 star rating. I've found this is easy for me to keep up with year after year.<br />
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As the year comes to a close, I always like to make a reading goal for myself in the coming year. For 2019, my goal is to read 35 books across non-fiction and fiction, audio book, e-book, and actual book-in-my-hands. I'll be using my journal and the same method again this year to track my reading.<br />
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I thought perhaps some of you might also enjoy tracking your reading along with me! I've created a free PDF printable for you that is similar to my reading journal. The page fits 10 books, so you can create a goal and choose to print as few or as many pages as you need. I hope you'll comment and let me know your reading goal for the year!<br />
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As the year comes to a close, I am looking back over my 2018 reading and sharing my favorites! I keep a reading journal (<a href="https://members.modernmrsdarcy.com/product/mmd-deluxe/">this one from Modern Mrs Darcy</a>) which I use to track my reading, including books I've read, books I want to read, and favorite quotes. Currently, I'm at 36 books for 2018, although I expect to push in a last few before the year ends! My goal this year was 35 books, up from 30 last year, so I am excited to have met my benchmark with a couple weeks left in the year.<br />
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<a href="https://amzn.to/2BtQUo7">We Were the Lucky Ones by Georgia Hunter</a></h4>
Friends, pause whatever you're reading and go read this book. The novel follows a Jewish family in Poland from the beginning of World War II through to the war's end, chronicling each member's journey through those harrowing years. The stories of courage, strength, and bravery are stunning. And bonus: this book is based on the author's actual family history.<br />
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Might I suggest a new concept I discovered this year? A <b>book flight</b>. You read three books in a row with similar themes or styles. Together, the books bring more than the sum of their parts. For this selection, I'd pair Lucky Ones with <a href="https://amzn.to/2Bt4oAf">The Nightingale by Kristin Hannah</a> and <a href="https://amzn.to/2UX07hz">The Storyteller by Jodi Picoult</a>.<br />
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<a href="https://amzn.to/2BtQUo7">Firefly Lane by Kristin Hannah</a></h4>
Until a couple weeks ago when I read the book above, I thought Firefly Lane would be my favorite book of 2018. It's a beautiful story of two best friends through the decades. I love the depth and longevity of this book and the theme of deep friendship. Kristin Hannah is a phenomenal author and this novel does not disappoint.<br />
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Book Flight: I struggled with this one! Try <a href="https://amzn.to/2CoNLaD">The Almost Sisters by Joshilyn Jackson</a> and <a href="https://amzn.to/2EBzY33">Sense and Sensibility by Jane Austen</a> although I also thought of Anne of Green Gables/Anne of Avonlea or Little Women.<br />
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I've referenced this book in a couple of posts lately. I absolutely love McNeil's take on motherhood as a spiritual discipline. She weaves her own experiences with Scripture and leaves you with practical tips in each chapter.</div>
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Book Flight: <a href="https://amzn.to/2Sdwnew">Desperate: Hope for the Mom Who Needs to Breathe by Sally Clarkson and Sarah Mae</a> and <a href="https://amzn.to/2UYKje0">Becoming MomStrong by Heidi St. John</a><br />
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<a href="https://amzn.to/2S9CSPp">The Simplified Life by Emily Ley</a></h4>
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Book Flight: <a href="https://amzn.to/2EBAdet">The Cozy Minimalist Home by Myquillyn Smith</a> and <a href="https://amzn.to/2SaPd5X">The Lifegiving Home by Sally Clarkson</a><br />
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And now, a giveaway! <a href="https://amzn.to/2Cqsz43">Long Days of Small Things</a> was my favorite non-fiction book this year and I know you all will find as much encouragement within its pages as I have! I want to give away a copy to one of YOU, my lovely readers. To enter, simply head over to <a href="https://www.instagram.com/thedomesticengineer/">my Instagram account</a>. You'll need to follow me, like the giveaway post, and tag two friends. It's that simple! The giveaway will end on December 23 at 11:59pm.Melanie Allen {The Domestic Engineer}http://www.blogger.com/profile/13864926719514991781noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7963583898469503294.post-4880951513304002182018-12-14T07:57:00.000-07:002018-12-14T07:57:01.130-07:00More Precious Than Diamonds<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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I've been thinking a lot this week about what I wrote in my <a href="https://thedomesticengineersblog.blogspot.com/2018/12/ive-found-myself-wrestling-these-last.html">last post</a>-- about how I've given up my career and my own dreams for motherhood. I'm currently reading <a href="https://amzn.to/2PzNuoM">a book about motherhood</a> as a spiritual discipline, and it's turning everything I thought about my calling on it's head.
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I always saw myself as giving up my own calling from God to become a mother. Pressing pause, if you will, while I raise my children. That Master's degree and dream of writing were just hovering in the background, waiting to jump in again once my kids went to school. I've been realizing, though, that being a mother IS my calling right now. It's not some lesser version of my true purpose, but rather the highest calling I could have. I'm not the martyr sacrificing but rather the disciple following.<br />
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For me, this call to motherhood has felt rather like the creation of a diamond. The past seven years have been the most intense pressure I have ever experienced. I'm exhausted just thinking about the late nights, post-partum depression, pregnancies, births, discipline, etc. But under pressure, coal becomes a diamond. (I'm no scientist, so bear with my metaphor here.) As I've looked at my years of motherhood, it's felt rather like holding an uncut diamond. It looks like a rock- nothing important, meaningful or beautiful. It's dirty and seems common from the outside. And yet.<br />
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The process of turning that diamond into a jewel worthy of a ring is by cutting away the dirt and the rough edges to reveal the beauty inside. That seems like what God is doing within me right now. He's cutting away my own selfishness one little person's need at a time. He's slicing away giant pieces of myself I thought I really needed. But the result is breathtaking.<br />
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So all this to say, the diamond isn't coming through my own accomplishments, but through my daily sacrificial loving of my little people. Jesus has called me (and you!) to small acts of obedience-- daily taking up our cross to follow him. He did not promise fame and good fortune for his followers, but he did promise we would become more like Christ as we follow him.<br />
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This lesson is brand new for me, but one that is firmly rooting itself in my heart and mind. As I learn more I'll continue to write about it. And please, tell me how you are learning this too!
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I've found myself wrestling these last few weeks with my life's purpose right now. I've been kept awake at night by thoughts of my significance and the dreams I've held in my heart. I know that motherhood matters. That I'm doing the most important work. That raising little souls is truly the greatest task I could have been given by God.<br />
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But can I be honest? It doesn't feel like it. Instead, it feels like I live in a quiet, unnoticed corner of the world doing such small things. I wipe noses and bottoms. I give kisses and clean hands. And then there are the chores. Keeping home is exhausting and so repetitive. I struggle to sweep the floor and do the dishes and do all the laundry. There is so. much. laundry. I often feel like I spend whole days with a harsh word on my tongue and a frustrated spirit.<br />
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I have been thinking back to my brief time working. You know, using that Master's degree I worked so hard for? I'm struggling with the selfish desire to go back to work. To have extra money for what I want, instead of spending our budget on diapers and groceries. Again.<br />
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I miss the recognition, the feeling of being capable. I miss the progress reports, the opportunity for raises or promotions. The only promotion in motherhood is going from baby to toddler to preschool to school age. The only raise is adding another baby.<br />
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I don't mean to sound cynical. I know without a shadow of a doubt that laying down myself for my littles is the most important work I will ever do. It's just that the day to day of it is so incredibly difficult. Motherhood is an ultra-marathon, not a sprint. These long days that pull together into years make something great, but it's something I will not see for a long long time.<br />
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As I have talked with other mamas through the years, this seems to be a common struggle. We all want so desperately for our lives to matter, to do something great. I wonder if you, dear reader, resonate with these words today. Know that your mothering matters. And mine does too.<br />
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As I've read <a href="https://amzn.to/2Ux4gbJ">this author</a>'s thoughts on Instagram, she talks often about preaching to yourself. And so that's what I'm doing today. I'm preaching to myself, and to you, that our life work is not forgotten or pointless. Saying no to the "glamor" of recognition in favor of little ones matters in deeply eternal, significant ways.<br />
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And now, the baby is up from her nap and all three of my littles need to be fed. It's back to dishes and laundry and hugs. These long days of small things matter greatly. Don't forget, and remind me often.Melanie Allen {The Domestic Engineer}http://www.blogger.com/profile/13864926719514991781noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7963583898469503294.post-28208347747178471352018-11-30T07:46:00.002-07:002018-11-30T07:48:57.910-07:00A Few of my Favorite Things: Gifts Ideas for You (and a Friend!)<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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As mamas, wives, friends, sisters, and daughters, we usually spend November and December with long lists of gifts to buy for others. I love gift giving and I imagine many of you do too! For a few years while I lived in Colorado, friends and I would get together for a "favorite things party." We would each bring an item that was one of our favorites and then do a gift exchange. I always came home with a gift I loved plus ideas for more! Inspired by our parties, here is a quick list of a few gift ideas for you and your friends at different price points. Send it to your mom, your husband, your best friend, and they'll have some ideas of what to choose for you this year. Or if you get a little Christmas cash, treat yourself!<br />
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<a href="https://literarybookgifts.com/collections/book-tote-bags?page=2">Lit<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">erary Tote Bags</span></a></h4>
<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">A new library bag in with your favorite book art from <a href="https://literarybookgifts.com/collections/book-tote-bags?page=2">Literary Book Gifts</a>. My personal favorite is Jane Austen. Browse through the over 50 styles to find your favorite (and check out the t-shirts too!). Use code <span style="background-color: white; color: #222222;">TheDomesticEngineer20</span><span style="background-color: white; color: #222222;"> for 20% off your order.</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #222222;"><a href="https://amzn.to/2QuwwfZ">JR Watkins Lemon Hand Cream</a></span></span></h4>
This is my <i style="color: #222222; font-family: times, "times new roman", serif;">favorite</i><span style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;"> hand cream. It smells like cookies and makes my hands so soft. I've linked to Amazon here, but you can grab it at Target as well.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #222222;">How could I not include Joanna's new book? I haven't read it yet but it's on my Christmas list! </span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #222222;">Of course I had to include a fiction book too! Kate Morton is an author I always come back to when I need a good book to read. I've listed the Secret Keeper because I think it's one of her best ones, but you can't go wrong. She also has a brand new book out called <a href="https://amzn.to/2TZu3cr">The Clockmaker's Daughter</a>.</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #222222;"><a href="https://cultivatewhatmatters.com/collections/journals">Write the Word Journal</a></span></span></h4>
<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #222222;">These journals have become my favorite way to spend time in my Bible. There is space to write out the Scripture for the day, plus a page to journal your own thoughts. Each one also has a theme-- mine is prayer and I'm looking at hope or renewal next.</span></span><br />
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I ordered this sweater from Amazon and I'm in love. It's cozy, flattering, and a great price at under $30! I have it in olive, and I'm thinking about ordering the coral as well.<br />
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<a href="http://i.refs.cc/q4cwyk2F?u=1543587177423">The Simplified Planner</a></h4>
I currently use the weekly version of this planner and absolutely love it. The yearly edition is for sale right now, offering a full 2019 calendar plus room for daily and weekly tasks. I also have my eye on the magnet set this year. <a href="http://i.refs.cc/q4cwyk2F?u=1543587177423">Use this link to get $10 off a $50 purchase</a>!<br />
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Lindsay Letters has the most stunning artwork. I have a couple of her hand lettering prints and I love them. Her newly redesigned site offers artwork from around $25 to several hundred dollars. An 11x14 art print is $34, which you could frame yourself.<br />
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I received this kit for Christmas last year and have kept track of my reading in the journal. It also comes with book darts (a new favorite!) and a few fun extras. This is perfect for a wrapped gift (the journal) plus stocking stuffers.<br />
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What are your go-to gifts for your friends? And what's on your Christmas list this year?
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I've been praying a lot since our move about what God is calling me to do and what I should be pursuing with my time. I would love to have a creative outlet again and maybe made a little cash too. I've come up with a thousand ideas in my head (usually around 2am) but none of them really fit my life right now. I have dreamed of writing a book for a long time, and thought this might be the season to begin. But I don't have any idea what to write about.<br />
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God keeps reminding me that my work right now is raising my children. I have three little souls in my care. My days at home are not wasted guiding and loving them. Truthfully, this is really hard for me. I've been losing my temper a lot lately and feeling especially frustrated with one of my kids. It's hard, slow work this motherhood. It's long days and exhausted nights and cold coffee. I think, more than anything, I'm supposed to learn to serve God in the quiet places, pushing aside my selfishness to serve my children.Melanie Allen {The Domestic Engineer}http://www.blogger.com/profile/13864926719514991781noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7963583898469503294.post-21446951324669537172018-11-07T15:04:00.001-07:002018-11-20T07:46:33.024-07:00Purse x Diaper Bag Hack<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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As a mom, I find myself getting tired of carrying a diaper bag everywhere. I walk through Target with a giant backpack slung over my shoulder full of cheerios, diapers, and toys. Then on the rare chance I get a night off, I'm scrambling to find my wallet, keys, and a place to put them. Or if I drop my kids off at Sunday school or childcare, I'm left carrying my wallet and phone without a bag to put them in. I've tried a different diaper bag with each child, and while I've loved features of each one, nothing has been quite right. And I'm always frustrated when I try to use both a purse and a diaper bag at the same time. After three kids, there must be a better solution!<br />
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After doing some online research, I came across <a href="https://www.lily-jade.com/collections/diaper-bags">these stunning bags</a> a few years ago. Lily Jade offers a beautiful leather bag with a removable diaper bag insert inside. And while I desperately want one, they are far out of my price range. I cannot justify spending $300 on a bag.<br />
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And so the search continued, until I realized, why not create the same type of bag myself? I'm always seeing cute tote bags at Target. Could I add a diaper bag insert of some kind? After a quick browse on my trusty Amazon app, the answer is yes! And so, let me let you in on my new way to do both a diaper bag and a purse.<br />
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First, grab a favorite tote bag. I found <a href="https://www.target.com/p/women-s-canvas-tote-handbag-a-new-day-153/-/A-53142615?preselect=53158948#lnk=sametab">this one at Target</a>. The fantastic part about this bag hack is that you can use ANY large tote you have! That beautiful Coach tote or the cute bag you've been saving can work great for this. The one important point is that the bag cannot have any interior dividers. It needs to be one large, open space inside.<br />
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Second, add an insert. This insert will act as your actual diaper bag, so you want something structured with lots of pockets or dividers to hold what you need. I searched "diaper bag insert" on both Amazon and Etsy and found some great options. I ended up ordering <a href="https://amzn.to/2NA2jvr">this one from Amazon</a>. Two things: Be sure you check the measurements of the insert so that it fits in your tote. And get one with handles! This will allow you to easily pull it in and out of your bag.<br />
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Once you have your pieces, you're ready to assemble your new diaper bag purse. Load the insert with everything you need for your baby. Then slip it into your tote. Once that's complete, you can add a small zippered bag for your own items, or just stick them in the side. The tote I chose has a couple zippered pockets that I use for my phone, keys, etc. I also added a name tag to my insert so it's labeled for childcare. (I love <a href="https://www.tinyme.com/">TinyMe</a> for bag tags and labels.)<br />
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Now, when you drop of your little one, simply slip the insert out of your purse and leave it with the caregiver. You are left with a bag for your own stuff, and baby has everything he/she needs.<br />
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<i>Do you think you'll try this? Share your picks for totes and inserts in the comments!</i><br />
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One of my favorite things to do on Instagram is to talk about books I'm reading, and I realized it was high time I brought it over to the blog! Welcome to "Add to Your Bookshelf." I'll be posting throughout the year some of my favorite books on a particular topic, for kids and grownups. These will be a mix of books I own plus ones I've checked out from the library. I don't believe you have to own a book to enjoy it, but I do buy my kids a whole lot of books!<br />
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<i>Clockwise from top left: <a href="https://amzn.to/2Q8TqpP">Big Book of Colors</a>, <a href="https://amzn.to/2PCkEIu">Alice in Wonderland</a>, <a href="https://amzn.to/2SIopea">Pantone Colors</a>, <a href="https://amzn.to/2PChZhY">ABC Color</a></i></div>
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Today we're talking all things colors! I grew up with a creative, artistic mom, so I love books that foster creativity. A few years ago I realized I didn't have a lot of books specifically on colors, so I've sought to change that. Now my kids (and I!) are learning about tons of new colors. Bonus? It's hilarious when your four year old tells his teacher that cerulean is his favorite color.<br />
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First up, <a href="https://amzn.to/2Q8TqpP"><b>Usborne's Big Book of Colors</b></a>. This book has one page for each of the colors of the rainbow, plus lots of fun extras like a color wheel. It also lists specific colors like "caterpillar green" or "deer brown" and uses an incredibly large variety of hues for each color. This book is very large and very sturdy, making it feel more preschooler than toddler, which Tessa (almost 4) really likes. I've linked to the book on Amazon so you can see it, but the best way to buy Usborne books is through a consultant! Ask around to see if you know one, or ask me and I can put you in touch with the one I buy from.<br />
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I bought <b><a href="https://amzn.to/2PChZhY">ABC Color</a></b> for Tessa last Christmas because it combines her love of the alphabet and colors. I was not disappointed! This book runs through unusual colors that correspond to the ABCs. The illustrations are darling, and it's just the right length for a shorter attention span. Similar to the Usborne book, the pages are sturdy but not quite board-book style.<br />
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<b><a href="https://amzn.to/2SIopea">Pantone Colors</a></b> is brand new to our bookshelf. I ordered it for Theia for Christmas this year. I have to be honest, this book might actually be more for me! I love Pantone colors, and have always wanted a book or art print with a few. When I found this board book, I couldn't pass it up. Pantone Colors includes one page spread per color-- on the left is a grid of Pantone color swatches, on the right is a picture using multiple shades of the color. This is a visually exciting book that is perfect for little eyes learning to appreciate new colors. There is no story to read, so I like this as a reference book or what we call a "look at it book" more than a story time choice.<br />
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Finally, <b><a href="https://amzn.to/2PCkEIu">Alice in Wonderland: A Babylit Color Primer</a></b>. <a href="https://amzn.to/2RreLuX">BabyLit</a> has been a long-time favorite of mine. (As you can see from the photos, this book has been well loved!) They take classic books and turn them into board books. We have a number of these that cover everything from counting to emotions to flowers. Alice is their color book, and it's filled with delightful illustrations. It might be especially fun if your children enjoy the Alice in Wonderland movies.<br />
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The holidays are almost upon us, which means it's time for one of my very favorite things: <b>Christmas cards!</b> Friends, I adore Christmas cards. I spend hours each year choosing the perfect card for our family to send out to our loved ones. When friends and family send me cards, I hang them on a wall throughout the Christmas season and them save them in my holiday scrapbook. I've begun telling friends that the best Christmas gift you can give to me is a holiday photo card.</div>
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This year, I've had the privilege of working with <a href="https://www.basicinvite.com/">Basic Invite</a> to create a beautiful holiday card. Over the years, I have used many different websites to create <a data-saferedirecturl="https://www.google.com/url?q=https://www.basicinvite.com/events/holiday-cards/photo-christmas-cards.html&source=gmail&ust=1540918976378000&usg=AFQjCNFa8fbkLYcRmQTkzAoUSK94a-OMSg" href="https://www.basicinvite.com/events/holiday-cards/photo-christmas-cards.html" style="color: #1155cc;" target="_blank">Christmas cards with photographs</a>. I've had years where I loved my cards and the ordering process, and years where the process and the results were disastrous (don't even ask me about 2014!). <a href="https://www.basicinvite.com/">Basic Invite</a> made the process of creating and ordering my cards easy, and the results are stunning.</div>
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This year I used a photo from my brother's wedding where all three of my kids are wearing a specific shade of burgundy. In the past, I would have spent hours looking through card styles to be absolutely sure the colors matched. This year, I simply chose my favorite card and then edited the colors to match. It was such a timesaver and my cards look stunning!</div>
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Melanie Allen {The Domestic Engineer}http://www.blogger.com/profile/13864926719514991781noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7963583898469503294.post-49260526531662136882018-10-25T12:25:00.000-06:002018-10-25T12:25:01.498-06:00Alone TimeAll day long I dream about being alone. You know, the big dreams. I wish I could use the bathroom alone. I wish I could run an errand alone. I wish I could eat dinner without sharing food off my plate. I wish I could have just a few minutes to myself.<br />
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And then the magic happens. Ben comes home, takes the big kids to their Wednesday night Awana club, and I tuck the baby in to bed. All my wishes are coming true!<br />
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The funny part, though, is that I don't pick up that book I've been dying to read all day or soak in a hot bath- I get on my phone. I scroll Instagram. I order things off Amazon. I text. All week I crave quality, soul-filling alone time, and when it rolls around all I do is fritter it away.<br />
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I've realized that I often use quick fix methods in an attempt to fill my deeper needs. I turn to my phone because I'm too tired to focus on anything. I eat sugar all day instead of preparing a meal or healthy snacks because it's faster. I find this especially comes to light when I get my coveted alone time. All of a sudden, I'm so overwhelmed by the million things I've dreamed of doing that I shut down and just waste my time.<br />
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I've been convicted lately that I need to be more intentional in my time management. I need to plan better, think ahead of time about what I'm using my days for. And when I do have alone time, I want to have a way to quickly know what I'm going to do instead of anxiously overthinking all my options.<br />
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I have a lot of thoughts about this swirling around in my head that I may write more about later on, but for now, here is my small solution: <u>have options ready.</u> It feels like a lot of work to clean my bathtub to take a hot bath, so I don't do it. If I don't have a book to read, I don't take the time to find one. If I don't have a couple favorite movies around my house, I Google "funny movies on Netflix" for 2 hours.<br />
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Last night was different. I finished watching an episode of The Great British Baking Show I'd been meaning to watch, then I read my library book in my recently cleaned bathtub. I had a relaxing evening with surprising little anxiety, all because I had a few things prepared or planned beforehand. I was surprised how much I was able to fit in to my evening and enjoy it, instead of my usual anxious Instagram scroll.<br />
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Going forward, my plan is to keep a few simple things ready. I'll clean my bathtub about once a month so I can use it when I need to. I'll keep a few to-be-read books on my shelf. I'll set out my copy of <a href="https://amzn.to/2D4NJGG">You've Got Mail</a> ( my favorite movie!) so I know where it is if I want something to watch. I might even go buy some chocolate to stash away. Next time my unicorn of alone time shows up? I'll be ready.<br />
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What about you? How can you set yourself up for success when it comes to relaxation and rest?Melanie Allen {The Domestic Engineer}http://www.blogger.com/profile/13864926719514991781noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7963583898469503294.post-49662867695762146292018-10-17T19:04:00.000-06:002018-11-20T07:44:29.037-07:00Me Too, MamaI was greeted this morning by an expectant face, asking the same question he asked me 500 times yesterday. <i>No... not yet... stop asking!</i><br />
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I opened my Bible, desperate for Jesus to fill my cup, only to find a page covered in scribbles. <i>I wanted to make you happy, Mama. I wrote my name for you. See my amazing drawing?</i><br />
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I'm trying to take just a few minutes to be alone, but hear my name called tearfully through the window. <i>I don't want to go play... I want to be with you.</i><br />
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Today has been one of those unexpectedly rough days where I <b>just don't want to be a stay-at-home mom</b>. All day, I've just wanted to drink coffee uninterrupted, get lost on my phone, and nap. I even had a really sweet hour at the library and our local coffee shop with my kids, and I still felt depressed and discouraged. I wanted to throw my hands up, grab some chocolate, and give up.<br />
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Do you ever have days like this? Do you ever feel like your entire life is all for nothing? That you'd give anything to have <b>just one day off</b> from all the needs of little hearts and hands?<br />
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When everything seems to be falling apart, here are of few of the ways I pull myself back together (in no particular order). <i>And just know, these are for me! I'm writing this right now because I need it most of all!</i><br />
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First, I try to find a few minutes to look through my frustrations to what is actually going on. I find if my children are occupied with food, playtime, or a movie, I can actually find a second to do this! Today I realized half-way through the day that our heaven-baby's birthday is today. Even when I forget what month it is, my heart somehow remembers deep down that it's a painful day. Of course, I'm off today. Of course I feel sad and want time alone.<br />
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Second, I spend time with Jesus. I have been learning a lot lately about preaching the gospel to myself and my children. Today, I've been clinging to the truth that Jesus knows and understands my heart. He also had days he struggled through. He had frustrating disciples who couldn't get basic ideas through their heads. He was followed around constantly too! Christ gave his life as a sacrifice for me. What a privilege, even on my hardest days, to imitate my Savior.<br />
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And third, if I can, I ask for help from those around me so I can rest. Tonight my kids have an event at a local church, so I'll be taking the baby to Target. You better believe I'll be spending a good long while in the Joanna Gaines aisle and buying a giant bag of candy corn just for me. On Saturday, I get to go to a local event without the big kids. (Turns out when you have 3, just keeping the baby is a break!)<br />
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Mama friend, I am here struggling with you. I know how hard these days are. I hope that you find rest today, and support from your community. Be encouraged that Jesus knows, even if no one else does.
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I love the changing seasons, especially this time of year. I look forward to watching the leaves slowly slip from green to yellow to red. I love waking up to cooler temperatures. I'm excited to take my kids to the pumpkin patch and watch them trick-or-treat. I find I don't miss the hot weather or the pool parties of summer all that much.<br />
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I often think about my life in seasons: the college years; early marriage; motherhood with one, then two, then three. Our cross-country move has brought with it another new season. It's a season that echoes the changing leaves outside. I'm letting go of the sunny days of our vibrant Colorado community. My life has become quieter, more dormant, as we start fresh and grow new roots.<br />
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I'll be honest, this change has been painful. I'm lonely and I desperately miss what we left behind. I often think in terms of then versus now, comparing our new life to our old one and finding it comes up short on my imaginary measuring stick. If I could be granted a wish right now, it would be to take our new home and neighborhood (which I do in fact love more than any other in the world!), and move it back into our old town in Colorado. I want the best of both summer and fall, all at the same time.<br />
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It doesn't work like that, though, does it? To enjoy fall, you have to lose the hot days and green leaves of summer. Moving forward through the year, and our lives, involves letting go of old things to welcome the new. I don't like the letting go part-- I just want to welcome the new while clinging to the old.<br />
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As I work through these feelings and struggles with the Lord, He has given me a word for this new season: <b>Nourish</b>. Our last few years have been full to the point that our family is depleted. We were running on empty and pushing ourselves to the breaking point. A major reason for this move was to change that. God is asking me to take time to nourish myself and my family. He's asking me to be quiet and rest. To do less, not more. To sleep and read and write and soak in the beauty of our new surroundings. To spend quality time with each of my children, to strengthen my marriage, to refuel my own heart.<br />
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I know this season will not last forever. Soon we will slip into winter, then spring, then summer again. One day I will have the same amazing community that we had in Colorado. One day I won't feel like "the new girl" any longer. My hope in the meantime is that I don't miss what's happening right now, in this season. That I nourish my heart and my family for what is to come.<br />
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And still, my days feel difficult, exhausting, and overwhelming. After a particularly rough day on Tuesday, I took a moment alone and realized what was making my day so difficult. <b>I wanted to go home.</b> You probably know the feeling; the ache in the pit of your stomach and the lump in your throat as you think about the comfort of whatever place you call home. Just seconds later, the realization hit me. I WAS home. I was standing in my new house, aching for a house we sold within a community we loved in a state we left. I've never experienced quite that level of displacement before. I suddenly felt unmoored, adrift across the country from everything I know and love.<br />
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As I have ruminated on these ideas this week, I realized the hardest part for me is the knowledge that I cannot go back. I cannot undo this move, I cannot catch up on what I have missed in Colorado. The only way through is forward. All I can do now is create a new life here, making new friends and creating new community.<br />
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I know that all this will come, just as it has in the many other places I have lived. But it still doesn't make it easier to be right here, right now. I'm reading <a href="https://amzn.to/2RrQ9mC">this book</a> with some dear CO friends about being brave, and the lesson couldn't be more timely. I'm realizing the great value of community, even when it's phone calls and Skype messages. I'm thanking Jesus for technology and for sweet friends who reach out to me throughout the days.<br />
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I feel small and afraid, but I know that the only way to stay the course is to stand up and be brave, trusting God each day, each moment. And so I raise my hands and bravely welcome a new life. It's terrifying, but it's also exciting. I know Jesus good things in store and much to teach me.<br />
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<i>What about you? How are you being brave in your own life?</i><br />
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